1. RESPECT THE PURPOSE OF THE FORUM:
Living the Sacrament: A Catholic NFP Community was created to be a forum for discussion of Natural Family Planning methods from a Catholic perspective. The purpose of these message boards is to provide a place for those who wish to grow in the Catholic faith to meet with other like minded individuals; to support one another; to pray for one another; and to encourage one another. We come here to be renewed in the Holy Spirit, so that we might return to our duties to with renewed faith, hope and love.
We welcome non-Catholics to join us, but they should be aware that Catholics should not have to defend their faith or their pro-life decisions on this site. We will not judge another person’s heart, but any non-Catholic doctrine that is posted will be removed.
2. PROMOTE NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING
The mission of this site is to support the use of Natural Family Planning between a husband and wife as they prayerfully discern God’s will for their family. We also encourage the use of charting to single/engaged women to learn about their cycles and bodies before being married. We do not want to discourage discussion about hormonal or artificial birth control if questions arise, but please be aware that any post encouraging contraception will be placed under moderator review and potentially removed.
3. QUESTIONS ENCOURAGED!
The Living the Sacrament forums are a place for people to come who are interested in learning more about Natural Family Planning from a Catholic perspective. None of the opinions expressed on the message boards constitute medical advice. They are simply our personal experience in similar situations. You should always go to your doctor if you have questions about a medical issue or treatment and visit, in-person if possible, with a certified NFP instructor for charting and cycle help/analysis. If you are not married or engaged, please post your questions in the “Just Curious” section and feel free to participate on any thread that is not sexual in nature.
4. BE CONSIDERATE
We all have had different experiences, come from different cultures and backgrounds, and we span a few different generations. Please remember to be gracious, kind, and discreet in your responses to other members. When speaking with or about others, please follow the example of Christ. Let your words, tone and actions be a light…so that others may give glory to God. If you represent yourself as a health professional, a counselor, or a certified NFP instructor please do so within the guidelines of your organization and realize your opinions may be held in higher regard.
5. DON’T ENDORSE SIN
Do not encourage another member of the forum to engage in behaviors that the Catholic Church clearly teaches as sin (adultery, pre-marital sex, porn, homosexuality, contraception etc). DO gently encourage members engaging in sinful behaviors to seek out the Lord’s guidance on the matter.
6. USE INOFFENSIVE SPEECH:
Please refrain from using sexually explicit language. However, using medical terms or mild sexual slang is acceptable. Be aware that our censored word filter will alter certain terms. In addition, moderators reserve the right to edit posts containing offensive words the filters do not catch.
7. NO FLAMING
Calling other members names, using unkind sarcasm, and attacking someone in a personal way will not be tolerated. Heated discussions are okay, but may be moved to a Hot Topics area. Talking rudely about another person (a member of the forum or not) is not allowed. It is fine to talk about your frustrations, but the behaviors previously mentioned lead to discouragement and dissension, not healing and encouragement.
Negative commentary on other faiths is not allowed. We do not build up the Church when we disparage other faiths, even if we have been hurt by others. Threads bearing information or apologetic links are permitted as long as no personal comments are made.
Political discussions almost always end up with someone getting flamed so we ask that you refrain from posting those types of threads or participating in political discussions anywhere on Living the Sacrament, including the Private forums. Also, political blinkies and banners in signatures will be removed.
8. KNOW WHEN ENOUGH IS ENOUGH:
Please feel free to state your point of view and go back to clarify if necessary: but know when to stop. If a line of discussion has dwindled to a back and forth between two or three people rehashing the same arguments, please make your final point and drop out of the discussion. If a member refuses to do so a warning may be given and moderators may lock the thread from further comment.
9. DON’T CAUSE TROUBLE
The moderators will remove any posts that are inflammatory, overly harsh or aggressive, or otherwise likely to cause problems. If a moderator is involved in a confrontation with a member, another moderator will remove/edit posts as necessary.
10. PUSHING AN AGENDA
Once in awhile, people join the forum to push a particular agenda. They are known as one-trick ponies (OTPs) It may not be a bad agenda, but we need to make sure that the forum is a place where:
a) the decision to prayerfully use NFP is respected
b) Catholic values are upheld
One-Trick Ponies can be identified in two ways:
1) Behavior–They generally post about only one issue, often an off-topic discussion. They won’t engage in real discussion with other forum members, or respond respectfully when confronted by another member. Rather than thinking about the original poster’s situation before posting, they simply look for more places to push their agenda.
2) Content–The content of the OTP’s agenda may be inappropriate for our forum if it is poor marital advice, incorrect medical advice, theological heresy or promoting of hormonal or artificial birth control.
Members acting in one-trick pony fashion should expect to be contacted by a moderator or Admin.
11. DUPLICATE ACCOUNTS
Making duplicate accounts either to support your own position or access areas that you have been suspended or banned from (including the whole board) is not acceptable.
If a situation arises where you need additional privacy to ask a particular question, please contact the Council for permission to do so.
12. PROMOTIONAL AND ADVERTISING POSTS
On a site like this it’s normal to want to share about your personal life and your business. Please do not spam on-topic threads with this type of information. Use your discretion when sharing in a buddy group or your journal. If a moderator asks you to stop “advertising” your business in an on-topic thread or being pushy in your journal, please respect that. Posts advertising home businesses are welcome in the applicable categories, but are subject to Council discretion. Please feel free to put a one-line “ad” in your signature to advertise your personal blog or business website. See “SIGNATURE GUIDELINES” for further instruction.
13. SIGNATURE GUIDELINES
Signatures are for sharing about ourselves. If you have a personal blog, photo link, or business website that does not violate our Terms of Service, feel free to post a link in your signature, however all links need to be to your personally owned site(s).
14. POST IN APPROPRIATE THREADS
Please look to see if something you have a question about has already been discussed. If you don’t see it right away, please use the “Search” function. If an additional question needs to be asked that comes up as a result of the original question, then start a new topic. Moderators reserve the right to move or delete posts that are off topic for a certain thread.
15. USE SHORT QUOTES
When quoting a previous message, please quote only the relevant parts. If you are replying to multiple parts of the same, or different messages, please intersperse them in your message and identify the member who you are quoting. Do not group them all at the beginning. Do not end your post with a quote from another member, and do not quote a signature line, unless you are commenting on it.
You may not post someone else’s private content (i.e., from Private forums and private messages) elsewhere within our community without the author’s permission. Additionally, you may not post quotes from Hot Topics in your Journal without the original poster’s permission.
16. RESPECT COPYRIGHT LAWS
If you want to share an article, please post the relevant quotes, or give the link to the full article.
17. POST CLEAN LINKS AND PICTURES
When posting outside links or book referrals, please be cautious. State what the general thought of the site or book is, and if it complies with Catholic teachings. Please warn about possibly offensive material and be careful about materials that contradict a Biblical worldview. If at all possible, when posting a Youtube video, please embed it directly into the post. Moderators reserve the right to embed videos and remove questionable links. If in doubt, PM a moderator and ask them to check the link before posting it.
Also, we ask that you keep modesty in mind when posting pictures. The moderators reserve the right to remove any picture they deem too sexual.
18. SHOW RESPECT FOR THE MODS, COUNCIL, AND ADMIN
All those in leadership on this site are volunteering their time to create a pleasant, educational atmosphere by enforcing the rules of the boards. Please treat them with respect. Failure to do so will result in a warning or a suspension of your account as deemed necessary.
19. TAKE CONCERNS TO THE MODS OR THE COUNCIL
If you see something that goes against our Terms of Service, use the “Report Abuse” feature to alert the moderators. If you have an issue with another member, please deal with it via private message or contact a moderator. If you are unhappy with the actions of a moderator, please contact the Council.
20. DISCIPLINARY ACTIONS
Breaking any part of the Terms of Service will result in:
Second infraction–one day suspension
Third infraction–two day suspension
Members who post spam messages or send similar private messages should expect to have their accounts suspended, banned or deleted without warning.
Please keep in mind that the administrators may delete a poster’s membership or ban a member at any time if necessary for the good of the community.
21. INACTIVE ACCOUNTS
In an effort to protect the privacy of our members and keep our memberlist current, we ask that all members log in at least once within the first 30 days of registering. If you do not log-in within the first 30 days after registering your account will be deleted. Twice a year we will post a house cleaning notice on site. 30 days after posting of the “house cleaning” thread, the accounts of any member who has not posted within the last 6 months will be deleted. We encourage any member deleted due to inactivity to reapply should they find themselves once again interested in being a part of our community.
Also, in an effort to not fall into gossip, those in leadership will not comment directly on any member who has left the community for whatever reason.
Admin, the Council, and the moderators reserve the right to make changes to the Terms of Service as necessary. Effort will be made to alert members of the forum via either the News fader at the top of the screen, or the Living the Sacrament Important Announcements board. It is your responsibility to remain current on our most recent Terms of Service.
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